Father's Day means different things to different people. Everything that has happened in our lives thus far has had an impact on how we celebrate father's day. Some people do not have a father figure and chose to celebrate someone who played that role for them in their lives. Some have a father but do not have a relationship with him because of damages he may have caused or they may have caused. Others have lost their father and this day is extremely hard for them. And many of us have a father so special that on this day we take the time to honor him and think about how we should celebrate him more than just on this day.
I fall into the last category. My dad has always been in my life and actively apart of it. He is such a special man and I could not have asked for any better Dad! When we were younger he was the tickle monster. I would run away because I would be tickled for hours. When I got a little older he let me get up with him and eat breakfast and watch Sportscenter before he left for work. When he would leave, he would always wink at me and I spent years trying to learn how to do that! [I've finally got it down pat! ;)] Then I became a teenager and my dad was my worst enemy. We would fight and fight and fight him but little did I know he only did and said these things to protect me. Now, I'm in college and take my Daddy for granted all the time. He still spoils me, does anything and everything for me, has bought me three cars in the five years I've had a license, and supports and loves me in everything I do. I always notice these things and say thank you but I never realize how much all those little things mean to me until this day every year, Father's Day.
To the best Daddy in the world, thank you for always being there for me. Even though we don't talk as much as I wish (that's my fault!) I love you more and more everyday. You are always trying to make me a better person and because of you I know what love is suppose to be like. You make me smile and brighten my days when I'm lost and confused about this whole growing up thing. Thank you again for EVERYTHING you do for me. I cannot wait to see you this weekend. I really don't see you guys enough!
Love,
Kayla
Friday, June 17, 2011
Monday, June 6, 2011
Excuses, Excuses, Excuses
When ever something doesn't go the way we plan or things don't get done when they need to get done we, as humans, make up excuses. It's the easiest way to cover our own mistakes but the excuses more than likely will involve another party. Examples: "I can't workout today. I'm a mother of little kids and I work." "I made a bad grade on that test because my friends made me go out." "I can't pay you now because my boss hasn't given me my check yet." In all reality those are all your own fault.
It is time to start taking responsibility for our actions. Excuses should not be the reason why we don't do something that needs to get done. Other people are definitely not the reason you did not do what you were suppose to do because if you really wanted to do something, you would make time to do it. So is it the excuse that justifies why things don't get done or is it adding someone else into the excuse that makes it okay? Personally, there is no other excuse except yourself. You can make time to workout if you really want to workout. No one makes you do anything. You have the option to make a smart decision and stay in and study or the dumb decision and party so hard you can't even remember what class you have a test in. Not having the money to pay bills is your own fault for not saving your money. Instead you went out and bought a magazine subscription, Sonic's Happy Hour drinks, dinner with your friends including margaritas.... you had the money, you just chose to spend it elsewhere.
If you find that you make excuses for everything take a step back and re-evaluate why you really didn't workout, make good grades, or pay your bills on time. There is a real reason and it probably has something to do with yourself. Take responsibility for your own actions and get things done. Procrastination is a terrible problem. The only time I ever find myself procrastinating is when I have something to do that I have absolutely no interest in doing. An easy fix, do those things first. The quicker you get the not so appealing tasks out of the way the more time you have to enjoy everything you actually wanted to do in the day. So stop making excuses. It's only rational if you admit to being the problem and even then it should bother you so much that you don't make an excuse anymore and you get done what you set out to do.
No more excuses,
Kayla
It is time to start taking responsibility for our actions. Excuses should not be the reason why we don't do something that needs to get done. Other people are definitely not the reason you did not do what you were suppose to do because if you really wanted to do something, you would make time to do it. So is it the excuse that justifies why things don't get done or is it adding someone else into the excuse that makes it okay? Personally, there is no other excuse except yourself. You can make time to workout if you really want to workout. No one makes you do anything. You have the option to make a smart decision and stay in and study or the dumb decision and party so hard you can't even remember what class you have a test in. Not having the money to pay bills is your own fault for not saving your money. Instead you went out and bought a magazine subscription, Sonic's Happy Hour drinks, dinner with your friends including margaritas.... you had the money, you just chose to spend it elsewhere.
If you find that you make excuses for everything take a step back and re-evaluate why you really didn't workout, make good grades, or pay your bills on time. There is a real reason and it probably has something to do with yourself. Take responsibility for your own actions and get things done. Procrastination is a terrible problem. The only time I ever find myself procrastinating is when I have something to do that I have absolutely no interest in doing. An easy fix, do those things first. The quicker you get the not so appealing tasks out of the way the more time you have to enjoy everything you actually wanted to do in the day. So stop making excuses. It's only rational if you admit to being the problem and even then it should bother you so much that you don't make an excuse anymore and you get done what you set out to do.
No more excuses,
Kayla
Friday, June 3, 2011
Communication
How important is communication? Is it possible to have zero communication with someone and still have a connection with them? I personally don't think so. I don't know how to function without communication. I think that is why I blog, Facebook, Twitter, text, email, call, etc. I do not like to not be connected to people. People make me happy and happy people make me happier! Making people happy makes me the happiest, but when communication falls short what do you do?
I am probably not the best communicator. Maybe I should have majored in communications to learn how to communicate. I wonder if I'm terrible at communication because I always have to be right or because I am so spoiled I only want things my way. I don't know but those two characteristics are probably not good to have when making people happy is what makes me the happiest. They seem to clash, don't you think?
How do you communicate exactly what you want? How do you express who you are through communication? Why does arguing seem to never solve anything? That's communication isn't it? I'm so confused right now because communication keeps failing me. You can't get things across the exact way that you want to via technology. It will never happen. Things are always misinterpreted and then it makes communication go sour. Maybe that is why I'm such a terrible communicator because the only way I communicate is via technology. Even so, I don't know how to express things differently to get my point across. Even if technology fails me on almost all occasions I am a horrible....
It just hit me what may be my problem. Listening. I do not take the time to listen to people when they talk. It is always about me talking and getting the most out of the conversation. Why can I not be a selfless person? I'm so frustrated with myself right now and I know this blog is making no sense. I treat this blog like a journal so this entry is one of those blogs I'm trying to figure out who I am. I just hope that one day I can figure out how to be selfless, a good listener, and an even better communicator. Pray for me as I seek help in these areas. Maybe a nice run would help me get back on track.
Living and learning,
Kayla
I am probably not the best communicator. Maybe I should have majored in communications to learn how to communicate. I wonder if I'm terrible at communication because I always have to be right or because I am so spoiled I only want things my way. I don't know but those two characteristics are probably not good to have when making people happy is what makes me the happiest. They seem to clash, don't you think?
How do you communicate exactly what you want? How do you express who you are through communication? Why does arguing seem to never solve anything? That's communication isn't it? I'm so confused right now because communication keeps failing me. You can't get things across the exact way that you want to via technology. It will never happen. Things are always misinterpreted and then it makes communication go sour. Maybe that is why I'm such a terrible communicator because the only way I communicate is via technology. Even so, I don't know how to express things differently to get my point across. Even if technology fails me on almost all occasions I am a horrible....
It just hit me what may be my problem. Listening. I do not take the time to listen to people when they talk. It is always about me talking and getting the most out of the conversation. Why can I not be a selfless person? I'm so frustrated with myself right now and I know this blog is making no sense. I treat this blog like a journal so this entry is one of those blogs I'm trying to figure out who I am. I just hope that one day I can figure out how to be selfless, a good listener, and an even better communicator. Pray for me as I seek help in these areas. Maybe a nice run would help me get back on track.
Living and learning,
Kayla
Wednesday, June 1, 2011
"Do I Know You?"
Do you every do the awkward stare thinking I know that person but I don't know if they know me? I do that a lot!! I guess I'm afraid of "rejection". I put in quotation marks to use the term loosely. I do not like to be wrong or feel wrong so I guess seeing someone I know and if they do not know me could be a form of rejection.
Another reason I might do that awkward look is because I'm just hoping I have the right name. Most of the time I do I just don't want to make a fool out of myself by not saying the right name. But another thing that I need to work on is knowing that you know someone and you know they know you too but you don't want to say hey because it's been forever since you have seen them last and then what do you say to them. I think this is the most awkward situation out of all of these scenarios.
But why are they so awkward? For some people none of this seems awkward it just seems silly that you wouldn't just say what is on your mind. Other people might agree with me or other people are reading this thinking does she have a point. Yes, I do.
The only way to grow in life and meet new people is by taking that leap of faith and talking to the people you probably know and they know you too you are just scared to say the first word. This world, I think, is built on relationships. Without communication we cannot learn what is going on, who people are, how they tick and so on. So what I'm saying to all of you and to myself is say something. The worst that can happen is they look at you strange and then you can continue the conversation by finding a new friend or building a relationship that was lost along the way of this crazy hectic life! The more people in your life the happier, I personally feel, you will be.
Happy Talking,
Kayla
Another reason I might do that awkward look is because I'm just hoping I have the right name. Most of the time I do I just don't want to make a fool out of myself by not saying the right name. But another thing that I need to work on is knowing that you know someone and you know they know you too but you don't want to say hey because it's been forever since you have seen them last and then what do you say to them. I think this is the most awkward situation out of all of these scenarios.
But why are they so awkward? For some people none of this seems awkward it just seems silly that you wouldn't just say what is on your mind. Other people might agree with me or other people are reading this thinking does she have a point. Yes, I do.
The only way to grow in life and meet new people is by taking that leap of faith and talking to the people you probably know and they know you too you are just scared to say the first word. This world, I think, is built on relationships. Without communication we cannot learn what is going on, who people are, how they tick and so on. So what I'm saying to all of you and to myself is say something. The worst that can happen is they look at you strange and then you can continue the conversation by finding a new friend or building a relationship that was lost along the way of this crazy hectic life! The more people in your life the happier, I personally feel, you will be.
Happy Talking,
Kayla
Saturday, May 28, 2011
Money, Money, Money
Don't you wish you had all the money in the world? I know I do. When I sit down and write out how many things I want, need, and desire to have, there is no way I will ever be able to obtain all that I want. Money just seems to rule everything we do. I was very blessed growing up that my parents never made money a reason why I could not do something. They always pushed me to do and be whatever it was I wanted to be. Isn't it weird how parents are the ones that suffer when they are the ones that worked for all the money they spend on their kids? I know children have a lot of rewards but right now I think I'm to selfish to think about kids. There are so many things I want to do and see and experience and buy that I cannot imagine working eight to five everyday and the money I earned going straight to someone else. I must give you parents mad props for being so selfless. Maybe one day I will get to that point.
But why does money seem to control everything we do? Every decision you make, more than likely, one of the reasons you decided on anything/something is because money was in the back of your mind. It seems to never leave us. I just finished balancing my check book (Yes I do that. I know you are proud Mom. haha) and noticed I have sporadic sprees of spending money. There are four or five days where I won't spend anything and then one day there are ten charges to the most random places. I do not know why that happens or how it happens because it seems like I spend money every single day on something.
Whether we like it or not money is always going to have control over us. I'm just curious to figure out how we let ourselves get this "Money is King" attitude. Either way, there is one thing my parents have always taught me: save! It seems silly because there are so many things I want/need/desire right now that I do not know what the point is. But because I'm not in high school anymore and my parents aren't out to get me they probably know what they are talking about. Finances are only beginning to start for me but I know they are not something to take lightly. Saving is a huge deal and it will only benefit me in the long run. Another thing my parents have not pushed but highly encouraged of me is to try Dave Ramsey. If anyone of you are worried about having financial problems or do he is the perfect person to help. Go to daveramsey.com and try the 7 Baby Steps to becoming Financial Stable.
Best of luck to all of you out there. We are all fighting a money battle!
Kayla
But why does money seem to control everything we do? Every decision you make, more than likely, one of the reasons you decided on anything/something is because money was in the back of your mind. It seems to never leave us. I just finished balancing my check book (Yes I do that. I know you are proud Mom. haha) and noticed I have sporadic sprees of spending money. There are four or five days where I won't spend anything and then one day there are ten charges to the most random places. I do not know why that happens or how it happens because it seems like I spend money every single day on something.
Whether we like it or not money is always going to have control over us. I'm just curious to figure out how we let ourselves get this "Money is King" attitude. Either way, there is one thing my parents have always taught me: save! It seems silly because there are so many things I want/need/desire right now that I do not know what the point is. But because I'm not in high school anymore and my parents aren't out to get me they probably know what they are talking about. Finances are only beginning to start for me but I know they are not something to take lightly. Saving is a huge deal and it will only benefit me in the long run. Another thing my parents have not pushed but highly encouraged of me is to try Dave Ramsey. If anyone of you are worried about having financial problems or do he is the perfect person to help. Go to daveramsey.com and try the 7 Baby Steps to becoming Financial Stable.
Best of luck to all of you out there. We are all fighting a money battle!
Kayla
Friday, May 27, 2011
Looking Back
WOW, how time flies. My sister is officially a senior in high school. Ryan has finished his freshman year and I will be looking for real jobs in less than a year. I feel like it was just yesterday we were all playing in the streets with Logan until 8pm when Mom would yell at us to come in. (GOOD TIMES!)
Now that I have been in college for almost four years and I have had the amazing opportunity to help transfer students get acquainted with Auburn and helped Freshman students figure out what classes they should take to help them succeed in the next four years, I've had some time to reflect on how much I wish I would have known and figure out just how much I have learned.
Coming into Auburn I really wish I would have known just how fast those four years really go. People always tell you, "It will be here before you know it" but you really have no idea how fast it sneaks up on you. Even though I still have one more year left, I just keep thinking about how fast these last three went by and I know this year is going to go even faster. And with the time flying by so fast, you really have to enjoy every minute of it. For the most part, I feel like I've done that. I did things I never thought I would do and I learned so much about myself in the passing time. I tried out for numerous clubs my freshman year with unsuccessful attempts. I died my hair on numerous occasions with my first best friend at Auburn, Morgan. I joined a sorority which I never thought I would do but I met the most amazing girls and I do not know where I would be without them.
Doing all these things taught me a lot about myself. People can tell you who you are all the time but you won't truly know who you are until you do things for yourself. Do things that make you uncomfortable (but that you know are moral, lol). Do not NOT do something because a significant other things you shouldn't do it. If they really love you they will support you with whatever decision you make. Take advantage of every opportunity placed in front of you because you never know what the future may hold.
Coming into freshman year, I thought I knew everything (on the outside) but really I didn't know a thing. The year from graduating high school to ending freshman year made me realize just how much I really did not know. Ask for help, get to know your professors (they will help you get jobs! They know people!), get involved, study but do not turn down the opportunities to go places with friends, and most importantly do not forget who you are. First off, learn who you are and then stay true to yourself. You might find out you are nothing like who you were in high school and that's okay. I discovered that and I think I'm doing better now that I have could of dreamed for myself to do in high school.
To my sister who is about to start her senior year: Do not live in regret. Remember that there is a bigger world outside of Oxford, AL! It's huge and there is so much to do and see!
To my brother who is in the midst of a wonderful college career: keep doing what you are doing but do not be afraid to do something out of your comfort zone. Try new things and enjoy every second of everything you do! You will be a senior before I can blink!
And to all my readers: read this blog again if you ever find yourself not living life to the fullest. Be happy and do not let things bring you down. Grudges, fights, bickering, complaining and negativity will not give you what you want. Stay positive, happy, and smiling. Even if you are having a rough day, putting a smile on your face will always make it better.
Until Next Time,
Kayla
Now that I have been in college for almost four years and I have had the amazing opportunity to help transfer students get acquainted with Auburn and helped Freshman students figure out what classes they should take to help them succeed in the next four years, I've had some time to reflect on how much I wish I would have known and figure out just how much I have learned.
Coming into Auburn I really wish I would have known just how fast those four years really go. People always tell you, "It will be here before you know it" but you really have no idea how fast it sneaks up on you. Even though I still have one more year left, I just keep thinking about how fast these last three went by and I know this year is going to go even faster. And with the time flying by so fast, you really have to enjoy every minute of it. For the most part, I feel like I've done that. I did things I never thought I would do and I learned so much about myself in the passing time. I tried out for numerous clubs my freshman year with unsuccessful attempts. I died my hair on numerous occasions with my first best friend at Auburn, Morgan. I joined a sorority which I never thought I would do but I met the most amazing girls and I do not know where I would be without them.
Doing all these things taught me a lot about myself. People can tell you who you are all the time but you won't truly know who you are until you do things for yourself. Do things that make you uncomfortable (but that you know are moral, lol). Do not NOT do something because a significant other things you shouldn't do it. If they really love you they will support you with whatever decision you make. Take advantage of every opportunity placed in front of you because you never know what the future may hold.
Coming into freshman year, I thought I knew everything (on the outside) but really I didn't know a thing. The year from graduating high school to ending freshman year made me realize just how much I really did not know. Ask for help, get to know your professors (they will help you get jobs! They know people!), get involved, study but do not turn down the opportunities to go places with friends, and most importantly do not forget who you are. First off, learn who you are and then stay true to yourself. You might find out you are nothing like who you were in high school and that's okay. I discovered that and I think I'm doing better now that I have could of dreamed for myself to do in high school.
To my sister who is about to start her senior year: Do not live in regret. Remember that there is a bigger world outside of Oxford, AL! It's huge and there is so much to do and see!
To my brother who is in the midst of a wonderful college career: keep doing what you are doing but do not be afraid to do something out of your comfort zone. Try new things and enjoy every second of everything you do! You will be a senior before I can blink!
And to all my readers: read this blog again if you ever find yourself not living life to the fullest. Be happy and do not let things bring you down. Grudges, fights, bickering, complaining and negativity will not give you what you want. Stay positive, happy, and smiling. Even if you are having a rough day, putting a smile on your face will always make it better.
Until Next Time,
Kayla
Wednesday, May 25, 2011
Summer and School Shouldn't Mix
It has been quite some time since I last wrote. Since I got home from California, I feel like I haven't slowed down. School started four days after we got back and the school work hasn't stopped. School finishes the last week of June and I cannot wait. It is weird to think in one year, I will not have any classes left to take. I will actually be able to do what I want when I want (after the work day of course).
Why is working so scary for some people? Yes, it is what you will be doing for the rest of your life so I can see how that could get boring but to have the time to clean, cook, workout, shop, travel, etc. just seems more relaxing than stressing over a textbook. There is an importance to learn and I completely agree with getting an education but I think I'm much better suited for the workforce. I have had a job since the age of 16 and it has always been something I've enjoyed doing. School on the other hand has always seemed like a task.
This blog really has no meaning. I've been wanting to write for a few days now but I have been searching for the right thing to blog about. The only thing that seems to be on my mind is summer, classes, and graduations. I have been to two graduations in the past week and I take away something different from every ceremony. Graduation is such a special time. It is signing off on a chapter you have lived in for so long and beginning a brand new chapter. Your life is like one big chapter book. We go through stages in our lives and in every chapter we learn and develop more into the people we are meant to be. I love starting over. Having a blank page and a new story to write makes me feel like I have the world at my fingertips. After graduation, take risks. Find out who you are and stay true to that.
Why is working so scary for some people? Yes, it is what you will be doing for the rest of your life so I can see how that could get boring but to have the time to clean, cook, workout, shop, travel, etc. just seems more relaxing than stressing over a textbook. There is an importance to learn and I completely agree with getting an education but I think I'm much better suited for the workforce. I have had a job since the age of 16 and it has always been something I've enjoyed doing. School on the other hand has always seemed like a task.
This blog really has no meaning. I've been wanting to write for a few days now but I have been searching for the right thing to blog about. The only thing that seems to be on my mind is summer, classes, and graduations. I have been to two graduations in the past week and I take away something different from every ceremony. Graduation is such a special time. It is signing off on a chapter you have lived in for so long and beginning a brand new chapter. Your life is like one big chapter book. We go through stages in our lives and in every chapter we learn and develop more into the people we are meant to be. I love starting over. Having a blank page and a new story to write makes me feel like I have the world at my fingertips. After graduation, take risks. Find out who you are and stay true to that.
So in conclusion, get an education, stay focused, do what you want, and live for today. Enjoy your time on Earth because you never know how long you will be here. I use to live for the future but I finally find myself enjoying the present and taking each day one step at a time.
Until Next Time,
Kayla
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